DISCLAIMER: I am not a doctor, nutritionist, or in the medical field in any way. I am only sharing the changes I made to my life in order to lose weight. Consult your doctor or medical professional before starting any new weight loss regimen.
I lost weight by eating less. What a concept, right?
I’m not one to sugar coat things, I say it like it is, no beating around the bush, and especially no codling and spoon-feeding.
It’s simply calories in VS. calories out. If you have hormone issues, seek medical help. If it’s genetics, seek psychological help. No, seriously. Talk it out and get to the root cause of why you eat so much with your family. It can be a bonding experience, maybe even an addiction you all share. But you can and will change. If you truly want to. I promise.
If you’re happy being fat, overweight, even obese, and maybe you don’t like hearing things you probably should have been told 5-10 years ago, this chat is not for you. If you are interested in learning about how I actually lost 50 pounds, no fluff, no gimmicks, stay tuned. Better yet, put your headphones on and go for a damn walk, because that’s the first lesson.
Get Up and Go Walk 🚶🏻♀️
I started out by walked 10,000 steps every single day. Even on weekends. Even on my period. Even when I ate something I knew I was going to regret; especially when I ate something I knew I was going to regret. For my first 20 or so pounds, I made sure to get a minimum of 8,000 steps every day, and a maximum of 10,000 steps every day. And I mean it. When the step counter hit 10,000, I was DONE. No more, no less. But I increased the count as time went on and pounds went bye-bye.
For the last 10 pounds (which currently puts me at about 50 pounds total lost, from almost 170 to 120) I upped my step count to 20,000 steps a day. YEAH. Twenty thousand steps every single day. I want to lose about 10-15 more pounds, so I’ll probably, eventually, need to up it to 25,000 or even 30,000 steps a day. But the goal here is to make it “normal”.
It’s normal now for me to get a minimum of 10k steps daily by running errands, cleaning the house, filming… and by 5PM or so, when the UV hits 2 or less, I get my ass outside and walk another 10,000 steps. I listen to my “saved for later” YouTube videos that, to me, are inspirational and motivational to get fit, stay fit, and never ever EVER get fat again. This needs to come with a change of mindset. No more fat-girl mindset. No more: “Save me a slice!” or “It’s only 300 calories” or “I’ve been good all week, I deserve a little something”.
I’ve been fat all my life. Since early childhood. There was never a shortage of indulgence in my home. And I’m grateful I wasn’t on the other end of that, but it would have been life-changing if someone would have stopped me and said something. But no one did because they were right there eating the same garbage and same portions with me.
You know how some people say “I’m fat because of my genetics” or some how blame their poor health on their family tree?! Well, I’m here to tell you: it’s not your genetics, it’s the fact that you have the same fat-girl mindset as your family. You all eat to cope instead of actually speaking your minds or talking about situations, you all celebrate every single little part of life with a whole feast (I’m all for celebrating life, but there are other ways to do it rather than stuffing yourselves), you all say “It’s just part of our culture,” knowing damn well you blaming your “culture” on your fat-girl mindset and your overweight body isn’t doing you any good; not taking accountability is a detriment to your mind, your body, your entire life. And you know this!
Focus on a Mindset Change 🧠
I know what it’s like to be ashamed to ask for a bigger size in the fitting rooms; to look at girls and women at my age throughout my life, and think, “I wonder what I would look like and how different my life would be if I was thin”; to try all the fad diets and miracle one-week workouts; to look in the mirror, hate your body, and then open the fridge to comfort yourself. It’s a horrible cycle that cannot be stopped unless it’s a wanted change. And I mean, you truly, deep down in your core gut have to want to do everything and anything to change this self-battling cycle.
Doing meditations, saying affirmations, listening to motivational or hard-truth speeches, putting signs up on the fridge and cupboards, even on your wallet or in your car. Taking accountability and having a mindset shift is the ONLY way you’re going to lose weight. But here’s the thing: you can have a changed mindset and take all the accountability your little heart desires, but if you have not started making any changes, you’re just another person who knows everything and does nothing. Pity.
Use Tools to Guide You 💊💉
I know sometimes we need a boost of encouragement from an outside source, a little cheat code if you will. Because hell, when I started my weight loss journey in February of 2024, it started to get hard for me after about 6 months or so of trying to keep my momentum going. I know everyone and their mom online claims that “once you get into the rhythm and momentum of losing weight, it gets easier!” B*TCH NO IT TF DOES NOT!!
They must have never had to lose a lot of weight, because the more you lose, the harder it gets. There is no momentum, your brain is creating all of these weird and wild fat-girl thoughts; anything it can “think” of to keep you from losing more weight. Call it self-sabotage, call it evolution from caveman days, call it “I don’t want to lose my boobs and butt” or “I’m too busy / I don’t have the time” etc. There are so many excuses and sabotaging ideas your brain can and will come up with to get you to stop losing your stored resources, aka extra fat on your body.
Having an external motivating shot, pill, powder, whatever, isn’t the worst thing you could do. The worst thing you could do is to stay fat the rest of your life; to know you want to lose 5 to 100 pounds but decide you’ll do it later. And before you know it, “later” has turned into you being on at least five little shots and pills because your blood pressure, blood sugar, and entire body is starting to destroy itself. Your cells are saying “you didn’t care then, why should we care now?”
So you say, “BUT I DON’T WANT TO TAKE ANY OF THOSE HELPERS, I WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT NATURALLY, THE OLD FASHIONED WAY!”
Mmmk, and how’s that going for? You’re what… 20-something? 30-something? 40-something? Still on the same diet you were when you were 18; still sabotaging yourself on weekends, still bloated, fat, and gassy.
Look, if you have been trying your entire life to lose weight, you’ve been up and down on the scale since, well, birth…? Or maybe you haven’t been overweight forever, but you’ve gotten to a point in your life where you know you’d look and feel a lot better if you lost a few. Maybe try something different. Supplemental boosts do, in fact, tell your brain to turn off the hunger hormones. And then when you know it’s time to eat, eat a small portion.
Yes, setting an eating schedule is crucial! Just because you’re not hungry on your little helper, doesn’t mean your body doesn’t need nutrients. Remember: you are using this TOOL to give you a little push to change your eating habits and fat-girl mindset. OKAY?! It’s not the end of the world, and you don’t have to tell anyone what you’re using to help you lose weight. It’s nobody’s business.
Do people ever ask you ridiculously personal questions such as, “How are you coping with your childhood trauma? Are you still constipated? What does your dirty laundry smell like? How’s that UTI doing?” Probably not. Okay, I mean maybe your mom, best friend, or doctor might. But all these questions are PERSONAL. And so is you losing weight.
When people ask “How did you lose weight?” you simply say, “The normal way, eating less.” AND MAYBE even sneak in “You should give it a go, it changed my life, it might change yours too!” 🙂
Again, it’s nobody’s business how you lose weight, why you lose weight, how much weight you want to lose, or any other bodily secrets you may possess. Our society is so concerned with what other people are doing to their own bodies just to critic every single part of it; it’s almost dystopian.
If, however, you truly want to share your weight loss journey like I am, then of course do so. You can choose what to share and what to leave out of your story. You absolutely 100% do not owe anyone anything regarding your body and what you do with or to it (again, besides your doctor and maybe your mom).
Now I’ve been on a little something called Phentermine since January of 2025. I can’t take “the shot” because it does something where it releases, or empties, your stomach very slowly. So if you’re on medication, or the birth control pill, and you need your body to digest a prescription ASAP and get to working, the infamous shot is not something you want to mess with (consult your doctor before doing anything).
SO! The phentermine pill is what I chose to use from a medical weight loss clinic, and this suppresses my appetite and gives me some energy and encouragement to do the things I know I need to do, but might not want to. It also has some side effects, so please seek medical advice. (The main side effects I’ve had have been heart racing and constipation. But breathing exercises and my go-to Miralax have helped these side effects for me. And I’m doing just fine, I’m still alive.)
I, too, have fat-girl mindset thoughts slip in to try to stop me. Please remember that these tools are not for long term use. We are simply using these TOOLS to help us shift gears and make the mindset change we should have made years ago. I share more about my Phen pill journey in my YouTube membership videos but here’s a nutshell of it.
I started at the highest dose and took it every day. But after losing weight, the medical clinic cut down my dosage due to my body fat decreasing, and I take it every other day, maybe every 2 days… which forces me to take a look at reality and see if my mindset has indeed changed, or if it’s just the tool working. And I’ll be honest, some days when I don’t take it, I see myself reaching for more: more food, a bigger serving, dessert. But the fact that I am realizing it, rather than stuffing food in my mouth unconsciously and then wondering how the scale went up, makes it all worth it.
Realization comes first, accountability comes next, and actions proceed. So I’ll put my fork down and push my plate away, say no to the little voice in my head dying for a Starbucks pumpkin spice latte with an extra shot of espresso, light whip cream please. I don’t need it, you don’t need it, and your dog definitely doesn’t need it. There is a time and place for indulgences, but every day is not it.
With all that being said, if you think you may need a little help with your fat-girl mindset, do your research, weigh the pros and cons, and go from there. Oh, also! Adding a corset into the mix to use as a tool for weight loss, CHEFS KISS. If you can’t take pills or shots for whatever reason, tightening your corset just a little before, during, and after meal times, does in fact act like an appetite suppressant. Here’s a blog post that dives a bit deeper into this theory of mine:
3 Reasons Why Corsets Help With Weight Loss
Overfilling Your Plate & Stomach 🍽️ 🤰🏻
For the love of God and all things holy and great in this world, stop stuffing yourself to the point where you feel sick! Why are you hurting your body? It’s literally done nothing but keep you alive and all you want to do is harm it. I did this for years; I loved the taste of something, ate it until I felt sick, swore I would never do it again, and then repeated the entire situation the following weekend. I know a lot of women (and men) who do this, too. If you’re overweight, and you can’t admit that you do this, go back to the sentence: Realization comes first, accountability comes next, and actions proceed. If you have not yet realized your harmful cycle, you will not take accountability, nor will you do anything about it.
These types of harmful cycles may be caused by a number of reasons including, but not limited to: trauma, an inferiority complex, and a subconscious food-scarcity mindset. Everyone’s reason for overeating may or may not be individually based on their childhood and past. However, those are some, I guess you could say “popular” subconscious beliefs that we might not even know we have unless we do some self-reflection.
And let’s be honest, if you’re stuffing yourself every chance you get, you’re probably not thinking about self-help, or want to reflect on those big-back behaviors of yours. Truth be told, I didnt either. I got married, called it “happy weight” gained 50 pounds and said “but he still loves me”. That is a disgrace to myself, to my mindset, to all my goals and everything I worked for to get to the point where I was, all to flush it down the dirty drain just because I couldn’t control myself around some bomb ass food.
If you overfill and overeat, I’d recommend self-reflection. Talk to someone, even ChatGPT or use a journal, and get to your root cause of overconsumption. If you use a helper to lose weight without doing the mental work, you’re going to gain it all back, just like thousands of other broken people who got thin but never got rid of or quieted their fat-girl thoughts and mindset.
Realization✔️ Accountability✔️ Action✔️
REALIZATION: My cut-off point was when I was 2 pounds away from 170 pounds. At 5’2″, that is past obesity and on the verge of pre-diabetes. I was still wearing my corset so the fat was accumulating in less obvious ways, but nevertheless still accumulating. It’s unfortunate that some of us need to reach our rock-bottom in order to do something about our health or make changes to our lifestyle. But I’m glad I made the realization that something drastic needed to be done ASAP. I knew that obesity ran in my family for reasons I will keep to myself. And I was not going to climb higher up that obesity tree. That was my realization.
ACCOUNTABILITY: I stopped blaming every external source for my overweight reality, and made the decision that my weight was entirely my fault. And yes, it hurt my ego, and I cried to my husband, my mom, and my YouTube subscribers about my lack of control. I blamed no-one but myself because I knew that the only person in control of myself was me. Nothing or no one was forcing food into my mouth, it was my own doing. Total and complete accountability is hard, but it’s very necessary.
ACTION: Forcing myself to get outside and telling myself I would just get to 5,000 steps was pretty hard. But muscle memory is a beautiful thing. And our bodies were made to move. Walking around my backyard or neighborhood while listening to some of my favorite creators on YouTube made the walk go by fast, and made it, in a way, fun. I would (and still do) curate a playlist of everything I wanted to listen to on my walks and see how many steps I could get to before the playlist was over. I hadn’t even noticed that I hit 10,000 the first time. But I did notice how my body felt afterwards in the beginning: heavy, heaving, pulsing. I started getting pain in my hips from walking so much and thought maybe I should lessen my count. But instead, I raised my limit to between 12,000 – 15,000 steps. I was determined. After losing more weight, the pain stopped, my hips strengthened, and I was doing 15,000 steps with ease. Adding another 5,000 steps was nothing.
Cultivating Healthy Eating Habits 📝
I’ll be the first to say, eating small and clean, especially when you’ve had a fat-girl mindset your entire life, or close to it, can feel exhausting, overwhelming, and just plain old boring! You’re so used to grabbing a bagel on the way to school or work, going out to eat for lunch every day, having a big feast for dinner, and eating dessert every night. With of course snacks in between, because you can’t have your blood sugar dropping for fear of being called a hangry bitch. And oh no, we sure as hell don’t want you to actually experience the feeling of hunger; you haven’t been hungry in years, maybe even decades. Can you believe that, you haven’t given your digestion a break in decades?!
You force feed yourself all day because you can’t say no and your boundaries are retracting, or they’ve completely diminished at this point. Giving yourself a treat because you had a long day isn’t self-care; it’s self sabotage, self-abandonment, AND self neglect. So you go to bed stuffed and dehydrated, and wake up wondering why you look so puffy and feel so drained. I literally just described my fat-girl life.
So I get it. Eating healthy is hard, time-consuming, expensive… or so they want you to believe. Let’s start with the “expensive” lie. Pull up your monthly credit card or bank statement and add up all the times you ate out last month verses all the times you went grocery shopping. Now hold the sum of all the times you went out, cut that in half and add the other half to grocery shopping. I did this for my household and it was mind-boggling. I save so much money by going grocery shopping rather than eating out, because you will no longer be eating so damn much anymore, so there’s no need to buy so much at the store. There one lie down.
Next is “time-consuming”. We all know that saying, “If he wanted to, he would.” Well, if you wanted to, you would. You would cut time from something else like scrolling, TV show binges, or going out to brunch. Maybe you have a couple hours one day a week. USE THAT. Find maybe 2-3 easy prep meals for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Make a list and then during those few hours you have free, grocery shop and meal prep. Time should never be an excuse. And yet somehow it’s every overweight person’s go-to reason for why they can’t lose weight. Really makes you wonder… how are fat people so busy and don’t ever have the time to lose weight? I’ll tell you the answer: it’s not that they have less time than everyone else in the world, it’s that they don’t know how to time-manage or take accountability; they blame they’re job, their children, their partner. It’s everyone else’s fault but their own. Shocker.
Last lie, losing weight is “hard”. What’s so hard about eating less? About going for a 20-30 minute walk? If you’re here, I’m going to assume you’re most likely not severely obese. You are an adult who has common sense to pick one leg up after the other for about 30 minutes; walking is not rocket science. Neither is eating less than what you normally consume. Instead of finishing your plate, put 1/2 or even 1/4 of the food into a to-go container and close it up. Then get to eating your food. There. You have successfully eaten less of a meal than your usual doing. And if you can’t do this, go back to the part about realization and accountability. You’re not ready for this, nor have the discipline for weight loss. Work on yourself and your fat-girl mindset. Do the inner work shit you hate thinking about having to do. DO IT. Or listen to a motivational speech or watch a YouTube video and walk around your home or outside your school or office. Once you make the realization and you’ve taken accountability for your body, come back to this part.
For those who have done the work and are truly ready to change their daily eating habits, figure out the dress or jeans size you want to be, and eat like you are already there. Here’s what I did and currently do for food and eating:
I go grocery shopping 1-2 times a week; once during the weekend and once during the week. If I buy everything at once during my shopping trip, food might go bad from not being used, because I’m learning to eat less and less, but still an adequate amount to sustain life and stay healthy. I do sometimes get everything in one shopping trip if I know I’m going to be extra busy that week, and prep and eat food that won’t go bad so fast. I also learned about food combing and juicing my fruits and veg, which has drastically improved my digestion and has saved me time during the week. I’ve also cut out caffein, I’m not so macro-crazed anymore, and I was counting calories. After doing that for almost a year and understanding food portions, I no longer count calories and I am still losing weight.
Quick side note: if you are using a helper as a tool to lose weight, but you are still in a calorie surplus, you’re not going to lose weight. and trust me, there have been times where I have taken my helper that morning, and I was counting my calories, and I realized I ate way more than I knew I should have that day. so, it is possible to be in a calorie surplus while you are on a helper, sometimes, not always. that’s why understanding food portions is extremely beneficial and important.
Here’s what I ate before I learned about food combining:
- BREAKFAST: coffee, protein shake + electrolyte salt every AM with one of the following: 1 egg + 1 egg white, olives, pickles, cheese — OR — greek yogurt + fruit + honey — OR — 2 keto breads, 1/2 avocado, 1 egg — OR — oatmeal + cinnamon + berries or banana — OR — mini shredded wheat cereal + milk + banana — OR — 2 over-easy eggs + 2 pieces of keto bread
- SNACK: protein shake and protein bar
- LUNCH: what I didn’t have for breakfast I’d have for lunch
- SNACK: protein shake and protein bar
- DINNER: 2 keto bread + pb or sunflower butter — OR — 1/2 cup rice, green beans, chicken breast — OR — apple + pb + built bar — OR — olives + cheese + crackers + pickles + rice cakes
As you may have noticed, my biggest meal was in the morning, and my lightest meal was at dinner. I was eating in a calorie deficit so I was losing weight, but I was super focused on getting in a ton of protein, even if that meant feeling bloated and heavy.
But I recently learned about food combing and juicing this summer 2025, (separate posting to come) but in a nutshell it’s combining food that uses similar enzymes to break down food in the stomach so you have a smooth digestion, bloat less, and feel light. Juicing has been a game changer for my morning routine; I quit caffeine and drink my juice instead and I feel great. I don’t claim to be perfect, and I don’t always follow all the food combining or juicing rules, but here is my ideal day of eating:
- watermelon juice (now that watermelon season is ending, I will need to find more fall/winter juices to have in the AM; carrot juice, beet juice, etc)
- recently got into green juice (spinach + cucumber + apple, or celery juice)
- a Larabar or RX bar (not protein bars, just clean minimal ingredient snacks)
- a handful of mini shredded wheats by themselves (about 10 pieces)
- keto bread with either pb or over-easy egg or avocado toast
- air fried broccoli + baked chicken
- mini beef kabobs + cucumber + olives
Keep in mind: I don’t eat all of this every single day, and I only eat when I’m hungry. If I have taken my little helper, I will look at the clock to see if it is time to eat. It it is not time to eat, I will not eat. If it is time to eat, I will eat. Another thing to keep in mind is if I’m on my little helper, and I look at the clock but it is not time to eat, but I am very hungry, I will eat. I’m learning to pay more attention to my body hunger signals and that they are more important than the clock telling me if I am hungry.
I still eat out, but I do my best to keep food combining in mind as well as the fact that I still want to lose more weight; eating out shouldn’t be a free-for-all, and I try to choose with focus and intent. Here are some examples, and keep in mind I might not finish my food because I took my pill or I’m wearing my corset, or both! Also, if you can’t or don’t want to grocery shop or cook your food, buy your meals from fast food places, but do it with intent and count the calories. I did this early on in my weight loss journey and it was very helpful to go from overeating all the fast food, to choosing lighter versions of fast food, to eating fast food not so often.
- Panera Bread: 1/2 a sandwich & a bowl of soup, side is an apple (save that and cut it up w/ pb later for a snack)
- Panda Express: bowl (rather than a plate!) of mixed greens + orange chicken or beijing beef (if the greens look horrible, I’ll do chow main)
- Chick Fil A: spicy filet (just the filet) & small fry
- In n Out: whole onion wrapped flying dutchman (but it is very greasy) + regular fry (or a lettuce wrap animal style and no fry)
- Canes: kids 2-piece meal
- Indian food/ Thai food: get whatever I want but meal prep the whole thing and then only eat 1 small portion of it
At the end of the day, you’re the only person who can make the changes necessary for weight loss. You can listen to and watch a hundred weight loss videos, but nothing will change until you make the realization, take accountability, and take action. Walk. Eat Less. Lose weight.
My Next Steps 🪜
I’m about 120 lbs currently (OCT 2025), and my next goal is 110 lbs. My goal is to start working out again, because I don’t want to end up skinny-fat. So pilates and yoga are on my to-do list, as well as some light resistance weight-training. I intend to keep food combining and juicing, and when I eat out, be mindful of what I choose.
I truly hope this has helped you get a basic understanding of what I have done and what I am currently doing to lose weight. Let me know if you have any questions about anything discussed.
Until next time,
xo, Sin